Recently I have been learning how not to talk to girls. Sarah has been my primary tutor in this very difficult subject area. A little research for this post, has taught me she prefers to use operant conditioning. Respondant conditioning is used to modify a reflexive behavior. Whereas operant conditioning is when the stimulus is applied to modify a voluntary behavior.
There's an important difference between voluntary and involuntary behavior. Both for the person exhibiting the behavior and the person observing the behavior. For the person exhibiting the behavior he could be easily mis-diagnosed if the person observing the behavior is not professionally trained. And it is entirely possible the observer may be the exhibitor. Like a person who scratches a mosquito bite so much that it breaks open. That may be an involuntary or a voluntary behavior depending on the situation. And so a mis-diagnosis could lead to greater frustration if little progress is made at modifying the behavior.
And then for the observer the two types of behavior can lead to different emotions. For example, it is easy to have patience with someone who involuntarily has difficulties with a behavior. Like no decent person is going to scream at someone with someone who has tourettes and has trouble finding the will to keep fighting it (if that is even an acceptable treatment which it probably isn't). But it is easy to get frustrated with someone who voluntarily behaves a certain way and decides to stop trying to change.
Finally all of this can be terribly frustrating for the person who is mis-diagnosed and doesn't know it. For example, pretend a person with an involuntary behavior is said to voluntarily exhibit that behavior. And then the exhibitor gets weary of trying to change that behavior. The observer will likely get frustrated, and the exhibitor may be reduced to shame, when in actuality the exhibitor has nothing to be ashamed of and the observer may have nearly infinite patience if it was known the exhibitor was only involuntarily acting.
So when Sarah tries to help my speech towards ladies we first must determine if my behavior is voluntary or involuntary. What I'm doing here is trying to turn this around. And for some reason I do not think I'm winning this argument. And I admit I have learned some lessons. In particular, I have learned you must not poke fun at girls. Not directly or indirectly. Now they will say that this is nonsense. You just have to not tease them in an offensive manner or about a sensitive subject. However, I have found girls to find all things sensitive and touchy. So it is best to just not tease them in any manner whatsoever. You would fare better teasing a pit bull with a steak.
As for Sarah, she is using operant conditioning, and so far she has continued to stick with me. Now a rule of the universe seems to be that a man will find no end to the ways in which he can test a woman's patience. And so far Sarah's has held out. Let us pray it continues to stay strong.
There's an important difference between voluntary and involuntary behavior. Both for the person exhibiting the behavior and the person observing the behavior. For the person exhibiting the behavior he could be easily mis-diagnosed if the person observing the behavior is not professionally trained. And it is entirely possible the observer may be the exhibitor. Like a person who scratches a mosquito bite so much that it breaks open. That may be an involuntary or a voluntary behavior depending on the situation. And so a mis-diagnosis could lead to greater frustration if little progress is made at modifying the behavior.
And then for the observer the two types of behavior can lead to different emotions. For example, it is easy to have patience with someone who involuntarily has difficulties with a behavior. Like no decent person is going to scream at someone with someone who has tourettes and has trouble finding the will to keep fighting it (if that is even an acceptable treatment which it probably isn't). But it is easy to get frustrated with someone who voluntarily behaves a certain way and decides to stop trying to change.
Finally all of this can be terribly frustrating for the person who is mis-diagnosed and doesn't know it. For example, pretend a person with an involuntary behavior is said to voluntarily exhibit that behavior. And then the exhibitor gets weary of trying to change that behavior. The observer will likely get frustrated, and the exhibitor may be reduced to shame, when in actuality the exhibitor has nothing to be ashamed of and the observer may have nearly infinite patience if it was known the exhibitor was only involuntarily acting.
So when Sarah tries to help my speech towards ladies we first must determine if my behavior is voluntary or involuntary. What I'm doing here is trying to turn this around. And for some reason I do not think I'm winning this argument. And I admit I have learned some lessons. In particular, I have learned you must not poke fun at girls. Not directly or indirectly. Now they will say that this is nonsense. You just have to not tease them in an offensive manner or about a sensitive subject. However, I have found girls to find all things sensitive and touchy. So it is best to just not tease them in any manner whatsoever. You would fare better teasing a pit bull with a steak.
As for Sarah, she is using operant conditioning, and so far she has continued to stick with me. Now a rule of the universe seems to be that a man will find no end to the ways in which he can test a woman's patience. And so far Sarah's has held out. Let us pray it continues to stay strong.
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